Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Self Esteem in Teenage girls

As my 2 older daughters were going through their teenage years, I could see how their self-esteem took a beating year after year in high school. Pressure came from all sides. These years are especially brutal for girls.

Women, in general, had lower self-esteem than men, although both genders have identical high levels between the ages of 9 and 12. "During adolescence, girls' self-esteem dropped about twice as much as boys'."

At that time I read a book called Reviving Ophelia. It is a book about what girls go through during these years. It says girls are their true selves at 12 and year after year they quit being themselves by trying to be accepted by their peers. They give up their likes, style, hobbies, talents etc. to fit in.

Reviving Ophelia discusses the painful identity crisis many young women in American society experience as they pass from childhood into adulthood.
Girls become “female impersonators” who fit their whole selves into small, crowded spaces. Vibrant, confident girls become shy, doubting young women. Girls stop thinking “Who am I? What do I want? And start thinking “What must I do to please others?”

Here are some sad statistics:
1 in 2 teens who have been in a serious relationships say they've gone against their beliefs in order to please their partner

92% of teen girls would like to change something about the way they look, with body weight ranking the highest.

70% of girls ages 15 to 17 avoid normal daily activities such as attending school, going to the doctor, or even giving their opinion "due to feeling badly about one’s looks."

Only 2% of women describe themselves as “beautiful”

While only 19% of teenage girls are "overweight," 67% think they "need to lose weight"

90% of eating disorders are found in girls

Thursday, September 17, 2009

Happy Constitution Day!

This is the most important movie I have watched in recent memory.
It is a 10 min. movie on the difference between all forms of government including Democracy and a Republic. I hope people will watch this as a family and discuss the kind of government we have. I will admit I didn't know what an Oligarchy was, and it is the most popular form of government.

Monday, September 7, 2009

Pay it forward

The expression "pay it forward" is used to describe the concept of asking that a good turn be repaid by having it done to others instead.

I remember when I was 16, driving back from Kanab Utah to Arizona in my Volkswagen bug. I didn't understand that 115 degrees and not checking the water was a bad combo. My cousin and I ended up breaking down on the side of the road. A very nice man came and towed us to a gas station and then took us to a motel. We asked what we could do for him and he said just help someone else in the same way that I have helped you. I have always remembered him and what he said.

Kyle and I have stopped to help many people to make good on his request.

This video has a great message. What if we all payed it forward today?

My Song in the Night

O Jesus my Savior, my song in the night,
Come to us with Thy tender love,
my souls delight.
Unto Thee, O Lord, in affliction I call,
My comfort by day, and my song in the night.

O why should I wander, an alien from Thee,
Or cry in the desert Thy face to see?
My comfort and joy, my souls delight,
O Jesus my Savior, my song in the night.

My song in the night, my song in the night,
in the night, in the night, in the night.